Monday, March 09, 2009

Monday Miseries, Miracle Needed


Sweet many of you are checking in and sending me messages filled with hope and giving me strength when I'm strugging to hold on.

It's late and I'm tired, but I'll copy an e-mail I wrote earlier tonight to give you today's news. Please, please keep praying.

I wish I had good news. Today has been the worst day yet. We arrived at the hospital around 11am, but the nurses were working with Dad. He apparently didn't sleep all night and drove them all crazy. He pulled out his IV on his right hand and now it's all bandaged. They put the IV in his left hand and now it too has been removed - not exactly sure WHO did the removing...

Dad was in unbearable pain today...holding his head...complaining that his head and eyes are aching...moaning..rocking in pain...didn't open his eyes once while I was in the room. The drainage from his operation is still all showing evidence of clotting...something not right there. He is shaking uncontrollably - and not just like a shiver...something jerky and strange...don't know...

It's so sad. My heart is breaking. We couldn't take it. Sharon, (sister), Mom and I just went down and sat in the lounge. So helpless. Something else is wrong with Dad...this is not just complication from the surgery anymore...something else is wrong. We are all getting frustrated as day by day goes by and nothing is being done to check him out. Something else is happening.

Mom totally lost it - collapsed in tears - and we all just hugged, prayed and sobbed...I've never felt so completely helpless in all my life! We decided to go home- too hard for Mom to be there.

We went back to Mom's to make some tea and try to re-group. Sharon called the Hospital to register a report about Dad being given morphine when it said right on his chart in Emerge that he was allergic to that drug. We aren't a complaining family...but we felt we had to do something. The lady Sharon spoke with was so wonderful and she gave Sharon the name of the woman who is in charge of the floor Dad is on..not just the nurse in charge of the staff on that floor, but the gal over all. She was going to have this lady call Sharon.

We sat a few more minutes, then Sharon felt we should go to the hospital and speak with this woman...not wait for a call. So, Sharon and I drove back to the hospital. When we arrived the gal had just been given a call concerning Dad and she took us right into her office. She listened to everything that has happened to him since last Tuesday. She asked us to wait while she called Dad's surgeon. Apparently, in order for another Dr. to look at Dad they need to go through the surgeon who performed the operation...even though the majority of his needs right now do not appear to be related physically to the surgery itself.

We waited and she said that the surgeon had put a call into the other Dr., but was still waiting for him to return his call from YESTERDAY!!! This gal made sure everyone had cell numbers Dr's could contact one another. She said she would follow up on this and that today or tomorrow a Dr. would see and assess Dad.

Sharon and I left the hospital feeling somewhat better, but still helpless. We need a Dr. NOW!!!! We're watching Dad get worse every day...and no-one is doing anything....or at least that's how it feels. He's fading away before our eyes and our hands feel like they are tied. The nurses are wonderful and being so sweet with Dad, but they can only do so much. Dad needs a Dr.

We got in the car and continued to pray. Lord, we are doing all we can...we don't know what else to do...Eph 6:13 came to our attention..."having done all, to stand".

Sharon had to pick something up for Mom before we headed back home. On our way home Sharon decided to phone her home phone to retrieve any messages. This gal we had just met with had already phoned and left a message. The Dr. we were waiting to hear from had just gone in to see Dad. He has ordered a CT scan of his head, chest x-rays, blood samples, urine samples, an antibiotic, some other HP test...something to do with blood work...action is being taken. Oh, thank You Lord. I just started praising and crying in the car. Something is going to be done. Thank You, thank You Lord.

Praying that these tests will be conducted quickly and Dad will receive the help he needs. Something is terribly wrong.

The Pastor from my sister's church went up to see Dad tonight and he said that Dad seemed to be a bit more peaceful. He also opened his eyes and made a remark that his family isn't supporting him or coming. That breaks my heart. I know Dad is saying things that aren't true as he is still hallucinating...but it breaks my heart to think he is feeling so abandoned. We ARE there. We're doing all we know to do. Praying so hard that God will help him know he is not abandoned...that Daddy will know our love and His love. I want to just crawl into Dad's lap, like I did as a little girl and tell him, Daddy I AM here...we haven't left...we're thinking about you and praying for you continually..we LOVE you....

Totally exhausted tonight. Crying every few seconds. Emotionally and physically depleted. Praying for God's strength.

Singing through tears,
"Because He lives, I can face tomorrow
Because He lives, all fear is gone
Because I know He holds the future
And life is worth the living, just because He lives."

Thank you, thank you, thank you for listening once again.
Tomorrow my friend...I'm holding on to hope for good news tomorrow,

**UPDATE** My Mom just received a call from the hospital. Dad is so agitated and 'out of control' they want our family to come. We are standing in desperate need of prayer today. God is able.

He Is Able

Lyrics by Rory Noland and Greg Ferguson

He is able more than able To accomplish what concerns me today He is able more than able To handle anything that comes my way He is able more than able To do much more than I could ever dream He is able more than able To make me what He wants me to be

© 1989 Maranatha Praise Inc


Sita said...

I had thought that someone had already reported this 'mishap' which is not 'complaining' by any means. It is a legitimate concern, probably one that God wanted to come to the forefront, possibly because of previous incompetence or to prevent future tragedies. My prayer is that this is followed up to the max. for His purposes.

His purposes do not make sense to me in this situation when everyone is so stretched to bursting. But this I know, my friend, He knows, He cares, He is in the details. Right now, you all need to be carried, and that is why the Body is here.
Joy, continuing to intercede.

Beth E. said...

Praying for your precious father, and praying for you and your family. What a terrible ordeal for him AND for you!

Tracy said...

My heart just breaks for your Dad, and for the rest of you feeling so helpless. Praying for God's continuing intervention in this situation.

Earlier today, someone shared an e-mail with me that contained a little passage from Isaiah I never remembered having seen before. It seems fitting to share with you..."And He will be the stability of your times" (Isaiah 33:6). Regardless of the circumstances that swirl around us He indeed is the only true source of our stability. Praying you sense the reality in this truth.

Leah said...


I am so sorry that you are experiencing such problems. This should not have happened and I'm glad you have registered a complaint.

Does Canada have nationalized healthcare? I know at one point they did. Can you move your dad to another hospital if this doesn't provide the results you need?

Praying for you.


Joy in The Truth said...

Praying for a miracle for your daddy. Will be watching for God's gentle work here.

Kim said...

oh joy, i am so sorry to read that your daddy is having such an awful time. please know that i am praying for him and your family. keep leaning on God's promises...He will bring you through this nightmare.


Lori said...

Oh Joy, I am just so, so sorry that all of this is happening. These unexpected turns...I'm praying that today, God grants the needed wisdom to the doctors to reveal which way they need to turn.
I'm praying that you will sense a calmness and peace from God, knowing that God is with you.
"The Lord will guide you continually, and satisfy your needs in parched places."
Isaiah 58:11
Miracles today, Lord...
Lori - Mesa, AZ

megs @ whadusay said...

Hi Joy - I read your comments over on Lysa's blog and hopped over to yours. Just wanted you to know I'm praying for you and your family today.

Karen said...


All our prayers are with you, your Dad, Mom and sister today. I am so sorry that this is happening to you all. Remember that He continues to uphold you with His righteous right hand.



On Purpose said...

Dear Jesus for You know Your daughter is weak, her heart is breaking, her tears are flowing and she NEEDS You. Be big in her life today, show her just how amazing You are. Pour out more of Your love, Your strength, more of You in her life. Keep Joy sweet and precious hand tightly in Yours. Lead her and guide her and most of all keep whispering to her heart how much You love her. We know Your love endures! Amen

Paula (SweetPea) said...

Oh Joy, my heart is breaking with you as tears well up in my eyes. Oh, how your pain is so...I don't even have the words. The desire to crawl up in your daddy's lap and love on him and he love on you...

I praise the Lord that the Doc has come and tests to be done. I pray this is the road to discovery and to ultimate healing.

Because He lives you CAN face tomorrow...whatever tomorrow holds.

The lyrics to God is Able reminds me of and must be based on Eph. 3:20 He is able to do immeasurably more than we could ever ask or imagine.

Keep clinging to Him and trusting His guidance.

Melanie Dorsey said...

I continue to stand with so many others and pray for your dad and you all.

Cheri Bunch said...

Dear sweet Joy,
I just hopped by after a visit on Melissa's blog. I was blessed by the outpouring of encouragement you blessed her with when you are hurting so. I am praying for both of you!
Be lifted up, dear friend. You are not alone!
Much love,

elaine @ peace for the journey said...

Here for you. Call whenever.


Marilyn in Mississippi said...

Dear, dear Joy,
I can hardly type for the tears. I feel so deeply for your family going through this trial/tragedy right now! I feel for your Daddy who is having to suffer so. I feel for your Mother..his soul mate....and how this must be hurting her. And I feel for you three girls because I am a daughter and have been through painful times with both my Mama and Daddy. I am praying for you often. Wish I could do more!


Yolanda said...

Prayers are going up

hkudla said...

Dear Joy,
Have been and will keep praying. Love you so much!

Pat said...

Joy, I am praying for you sweet friend. God's peace. God's supernatural strength and God's wisdom!!
You are on my heart,

Julie said...

Here with you Joy.... standing in the gap....

alittleilife said...

Continuing to pray for you and your family, Joy...

Kathy S. said...

The joy of the Lord is my strength...Jesus, please uphold this family with your strong and nurturing arms. Help them to know and be aware of your nearness in this situation. Bring comfort & be their shield everytime a fiery dart comes near. Thank you that you are near the broken hearted, that you are Jehovah Rapha, the God who heals. You are MIGHTY, and GOOD! You lead us beside still waters, restore our souls, prepare tables before us in the presence of our enemies...

Pour out your peace on Joy's daddy and fill him with your Spirit. Thank you that you uphold us with your righteous right hand.

Isaiah 43

Renee Swope said...

Oh Joy, this is so hard to hear and I can't even imagine how hard it is to be living through. I am praying that you will "Cast all your anxieties (pain, concern, anger, questions, anguish) on Him because He cares for you." 1 Peter 5:7

The Greek word for cast means to "hurl". The Phillips translation is so powerful. It says "You can throw the whole weight of your anxieties upon Him, for you are His personal concern."

YOU and YOUR DADDY and YOUR FAMILY are GOD's personal concern!!!

I am so glad you were able to file a complaint about the mistake they made. That is so important!! It is not complaining. It is an outrage what is happening. I am so thankful you are getting the attention your Daddy needs and deserves. We are all praying the Doctors will be given Divine wisdom and insight.

We love you and we'll keep lifting all of you in prayer!